Upcoming Retreat: Freston, UK (August 9-12, 2019) - 2 spots remaining
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Have you been craving more real talk in your real life?
I'm so thrilled to invite you to spend four days with me and a small group of kind, fun, wonderful people this summer!
The deep conversations you've been dying to have. Live podcast-style interviews with one or two favorite past guests. Quality time to work on a creative project of your own. An in-depth reflection & goal-setting workshop. Plus delicious meals, a relaxing and beautiful setting, and a few special surprises...
Our time together will be the perfect balance of community and solitude, deep work and hilarious fun, and you'll leave this retreat feeling strong, recharged, and inspired—not to mention infinitely less alone.
Where & when?
The final retreat of 2019 will be in Freston, UK (two hours outside London) from 3pm on Friday August 9 to 10am on Monday August 12.
We'll all be staying together (slumber party style!) in a beautiful, spacious, private house, located on a nature-filled property with plenty of space to enjoy fresh air and summer weather.
A converted dairy farm within the Suffolk Coast and Heath's Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty will be our home away from home in the UK
Who is this retreat for?
This is a womxn's retreat that welcomes all womxn, including trans womxn, genderqueer womxn, and non-binary people who feel called to this event.
This retreat is for you if:
- You find yourself listening to Real Talk Radio and wishing you could join the conversations
- You are interested in an immersive experience with very full days, blending deep conversation, solo creative time, meaningful connection, luxurious rest, and pure pleasure
- You'd love to dedicate time in 2019 to go through a holistic, guided reflection and goal-setting process to help you get a clearer understanding of what you want next, why you want it, and how to make it happen as you move forward through the year
- You've been craving more openness, honesty, laughter, & friendship in your life
- You love the idea of being part of a supportive group, and of contributing to a collective, non-judgmental experience for all
- You've been dying to do some real talk in real time about all sorts of different topics
- You'd love to treat yourself to the experience of an all-inclusive retreat where lodging, delicious meals, and lots of fun activities are custom-planned to give you a wonderful (and transformative!) experience
- You value growth, joy, community, connection, honesty, and going beyond the surface level of typical small talk
- You want to be surrounded by a group of kind people who will let you know that no matter what, you are not alone
I signed up for this retreat because I love the conversations that Nicole has on the podcast, and I’ve been hoping to build more of that into my own life. I also love goal setting and planning out my year, but it's something that I've struggled with lately as I've moved away from more quantitative goals and towards lifestyle shifts/things that are more difficult to measure or don't have a clear end point. I really loved the multi-part goal-setting workshop that Nicole lead us through all weekend though, and found it so lovely to take space outside of my regular life to ask deep questions and really work through the responses. This retreat is one of the best things I have done in years and I would 100% recommend that anyone who is interested in Nicole's work sign up for one. I had the privilege of meeting some incredible people and we had some fantastic, life changing conversations over the course of weekend. This retreat has made me so excited for the year ahead! — Lauren
Cost: $1450 (approx £1150)
Your payment includes:
- 3 nights accommodation in a shared room in a lovely, spacious house
- Delicious meals, snacks, and treats (starts with dinner on Friday and goes through brunch on Monday, and if there's one thing I can promise you it's that I'm alllll about snacks and delicious food and that there will be plenty of both!)
- Four-part reflection & goal-setting workshop, taught by Nicole
- Live interview with a favorite past guest (can you guess who it will be??)
- Writing & discussion prompts (so much good real talk!)
- Solo creative time, to work on the project/idea of your choice
- Fun outdoor time (I choose my retreat venues based on access to relaxing, beautiful outdoor space, perfect for taking walks and relaxing in the sun)
- ... plus plenty of surprise delights, fun activities, big laughs, and more
- Travel and transportation to our retreat venue
We'll be having hours of honest conversations, true real talk about our real lives. We'll write and journal together with no agenda other than getting to the heart of what's true without judgement. We'll have group time and solo time. Time to bond, time in nature, time to work on individual creative projects, and time to really dig into the process of reflection and goal-setting.
This last part, the reflection and goal-setting, is something I've been teaching in various capacities for the past five years. The new workshop I've custom-built for these retreats is the culmination of all that I have learned over those five years about how to change your life, which is really about how to 1) let yourself want what you want and 2) close the gap between what you say you want and what you actually do.
This sounds easier than it is, but I've found that few of us ever really take the time to be honest with ourselves about what actually brings us joy, and about the fact that what brings us joy will likely shift over time, in the many different seasons and chapters of our lives.
And so these questions that we'll be asking ourselves together on retreat, questions like: What makes me feel good? What do I like to do right now? How do I want to spend my time and energy in the coming months? How might I be standing in my own way?—these questions can be revolutionary, especially when we are also willing to admit that there's often a big difference between the things we truly want and the things we think we should want.
Can we let go of those "shoulds"? How might our lives change if we are willing to stop judging ourselves for who we really are?
Let's find out.
On retreat together this summer, let's begin to find out.
This might sound strange, but sometimes I have a really tough time allowing myself to invest in myself. The moment I even think about prioritizing my own joy or doing something to take care of myself (like attending a retreat!) my inner shit-talker starts going off, saying things like, "But I should be spending this money in a different way! But I shouldn't take time off work! But isn't this a totally selfish and indulgent thing to do??"
And then there are the other doubts that come up. Things like, "Will I make friends? What if I'm awkward and weird? Will people like me?"
And yet, every time I've managed to ignore that fear voice and take the risk, say yes, and show up with an open mind and heart, it's been worth it. Every single time.
Only you can know if this retreat feels like a "hell yes" for you. Only you can tell if, when reading about it and thinking about it, you have that gut feeling that you really, really want to come and spend four days with me this summer.
And if you do? If this is where you want to be? I hope you'll give yourself that gift. Because you deserve it, and I will do absolutely everything I can to make sure that it feels well worth it in the end.
Sometimes I have trouble justifying spending any significant amount of money on myself, especially for experiences, and I feel so proud of letting myself come to this retreat without feeling guilty about it. I was nervous beforehand, with the usual fears of, “What if everyone hates me or I'm not interesting enough or I don't bring anything to the table?” but we all wound up having an incredible connection. I definitely did not expect to like and admire everyone there as much as I did; I felt like we had a real bond as a group, and that was magical. On the other side of this retreat I have a renewed sense of power over the way I live my life. I have more insight into what things I want to do and how I want to do them, and I feel like my confidence and drive to grow into myself are higher than when I arrived. I also feel as though I have a rekindled sense of self, like I was reintroduced to aspects of being that I forgot were okay to show, and that makes me feel more comfortable in my skin and even a little less guarded. Now that I’m home, I’ve already taken steps in my day-to-day life to say and do things I might not ordinarily do for fear of judgement or rejection, and it feels great. I'm trying to ride this wave of honesty and integrity, and I'm looking forward to seeing where it takes me. I also want to say that I’m very introverted, and I felt so welcomed at this retreat. My need for occasional solitude was honored, respected, and even encouraged, and it was really the first time in a social setting that I didn't feel like I had to hide my introversion or compensate for not being super outgoing—everything fell right into place and I felt so comfortable just being myself. — Olivia
These retreats are limited (just 6-8 guests each), which ensures that each and every person has the best, most intimate experience possible. We'll get to spend so much quality time together with this small group size!
To reserve your spot, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Then, I'll send you a payment link that lets you select from either paying in full right now or signing up for a 3-month or 6-month payment plan. Easy!
(Need a different payment plan structure? Just ask! If this retreat feels like a "hell yes" for you, we'll do what we can to make it happen.)
So just send me an email and we'll get you all set, yeah? Or send an email with any questions you might have, and we can schedule a time to chat on the phone about it all.
I can't wait to spend four days on retreat with you!!
More Honest words about this retreat
My biggest fear before this retreat was that I wouldn’t connect with people, but I did! And not just on a superficial level. Often I share (and seem vulnerable), but I’m still guarded. At this retreat I let myself be a mess, and I also really listened to others as they shared and became invested in their stories. As a result, I feel like I’m walking away with a group of amazing people that are on my side, and who value me as a complex person. I also feel more confident, capable and sexy, which I didn’t expect. Overall, the retreat was a significant investment and I wondered whether it would really be worth it, but looking back I can say the answer is a resounding YES! Nicole gave us a long weekend of deep work with the right balance of honest conversations, goal-setting, pleasure breaks and all the food and beverages you could possibly want. I was surprised and delighted by the connections that we built as a group and the impact that this work is having on my life back at home. — Flo
This retreat has been a turning point for me, and not just in the cheesy New Year’s resolution way. I’ve now felt what it means to be brave and true to myself, and I feel so much more joyful than I have in a long time. If you can swing it, this retreat is worth it. It’s a weekend to meet the most incredible people, be the best version of yourself, and think about the things you really want in. I think it really does take something like this—getting out of your life for a bit, getting out of the patterns you’ve put on yourself, and taking the time to think about what you really want. One of my favorite parts was sharing and hearing other people share in such an honest way throughout the weekend. I was surprised by how much what everyone else shared impacted me and my own way of thinking about my goals; I didn’t expect literally every other person to teach me something so beautiful and profound. Also, I loved how much we laughed! — Sarah
More than anything, on the other side of this retreat I really do just feel less alone. I feel like it was a really beautiful time to get to know some new folks and the biggest thing that feels different is I feel more curious about some of the topics that came up over the weekend. This retreat gave me time to step away from my scheduled life and into a space that allowed for a good deal of active introspection, and I so appreciated the chance to dig into my values and explore new ways to prioritize some of my goals. This was basically an extended grown-up slumber party! — Ellie
After hanging out 24/7 with such emotionally intelligent, in-touch, inclusive people I feel more in touch with myself and even more open to hearing from others who are not like me than I did before this retreat. In coming home, I also feel that this weekend was a springboard to better relationships/conversations with my existing friends. Talking about my retreat experience has opened up deeper, more intriguing conversations with people who I've been close with for years! At the heart of it, this retreat was such a fertile environment for taking inventory of how I want my life to unfold. It's so common (at least from my point of view) for people to go through life reacting and then regretting their 20's, 30's or how they handled situations or took people/things for granted. This retreat helped me go deeper and take inventory of the things I want in life (many of them I already have!) and make sure I'm not taking them for granted or pissing them away. This is something I do regularly but being around others doing the same work was fantastic and energizing, and it felt so good riding that collective wave. — Jina
And some words about my one-day event, Real Talk: Live
My favorite thing about the event was how everyone was so raw, honest and vulnerable. I can’t believe how the group managed to cultivate a safe space in such a short time! For me, the biggest takeaway was that I'm truly not alone. After the event, a few attendees came up to me to thank me for sharing a personal story I told and then opened up to me about similar experiences that they’ve had. It meant so much that someone would seek me out and open up to me like that. If you’re on the fence about attending a future event: go! This was amazing practice in vulnerability, and even though I was nervous beforehand by the end I felt so comfortable and safe with the group that I was able to share stories and feelings I’ve struggled to share with close friends. The women who attended taught me so much about self-love, acceptance and being present, and I love that we worked on listening and being there for each other without jumping in and giving advice. — Kaitlyn
Prior to this event I was kind of at a point where I was over trying to meet up and get to know more people (because making friends as an adult is HARD), but Real Talk: Live kind of restored my faith that my people are still out there and that taking a chance on an unknown event is worth it because what if the event IS awesome and what if the people ARE my people, you know? Nicole’s work attracts those folks who are looking for real conversations, which isn’t always easy to find in day-to-day life, but the connections I made here were intense, genuine, and heart-centered. I truly loved how simple and conversation-focused this event was. I can't think of anything that would have made this better for me. — Caitlin
There were so many good memories from this event, but the most powerful one happened while we were in those small groups sharing our answers to your questions. I was sitting there sharing and listening, but at the same time a separate part of me was soaking up the sounds of feminine laughter and chatter echoing around a room full of virtual strangers and realizing with a kind of detached wonder, what a glorious gift it was to be in the middle of that moment of vibrant communication. It took courage for me to sign up for this event, and then even more courage to actually show up and enter into the challenge of ‘real talk’, but it was completely worth it. — Jen
The most wonderfully vivid memory for me is when Nicole was emphatically talking about pubic hair and about whether we’d ever wax anything if we lived alone on an island. That was gold. On a more serious note, I loved hearing where other women stood on the topic of female sexuality (since that's my current obsession) and that almost everyone had something to say on the topic, whether about how menstrual cycles affect us, masturbation, how to feel radiant, feeling sexy vs looking sexy, etc. It was so refreshing to have that conversation with women who were willing to be open about it! — Kat
I am such a fidget - I have a very short attention span and can't sit down for more than a few minutes at a time without having something to knit/fiddle with. And yet, I basically sat in the same chair for 4 hours and I didn't check my phone once! I was fully engaged with what was going on, and the time just flew by. What I'm trying to say is that my favourite thing about the event was how in the moment I was, the event was so captivating. I loved it! It also gave me the space to share some of what I thought were my most shameful secrets, and you sincerely let me know that I am not alone. It was such a relief to here this, and I have already let go of so much shame. — Kate
It was just amazing meeting you on Sunday, Nicole. I was prepared for it to be awkward - you’re so well known to us, and you know very little about us and sometimes that difference can create a distance. But it really didn’t - you made us all like friends with you, and each other, which was really wonderful. I connected so much with the questions raised and conversations had, and found the whole experience to be very thought-provoking. I particularly loved how we all became a bit braver and a bit more honest as time went on, and it became so clear throughout the day that we are not alone. — Petra
Nicole, thank you so much again for this event - it was truly a lovely experience. I really appreciated that you were so open and welcoming with us all. I wasn't sure what to expect, and was a little afraid that I'd end up feeling like I'd wasted my money, but in the end it felt wonderful to make meaningful connections in a short time with the right people. I've been living a long way from my closest friends for the past few years, and have really missed this kind of interaction. Personally, I would have liked a little more time at the end of the afternoon to continue chatting with everyone - which for me is a true sign of the success of the event, because as an introvert, normally by that time I would have been desperate for my own space! — Liz
When you purchase a ticket to one of my workshops, retreats, or other live events, please know that your ticket is non-refundable.
This means that even if your plans change, you can't cancel and get a refund.
But you can:
- Sell your ticket to someone else
- Give your ticket to someone else (lucky them!)
- Attend a different event instead (depending on space availability, of course)
This lovingly tough cancellation policy reflects my commitment to you. I will show up for our event 100%, and I encourage you to do the same.
As my girl Alex (whose policies inspired me to create my own) says, "Just come. Don’t flake out. Be brave & show up. It’s good for the soul."